Adults Deserve Playdates Too: Introducing Sex Toys Into Your Relationship
Want to give things a bit of a boost in the boudoir? Then it’s time to get down to business with some buzziness! Experimenting with sex toys is one of the most instantly gratifying, most fun, and potentially most revelatory ways to spice up your relationship. Using a vibrator or massager can deliver fresh, exciting sensations; introduce new ways to reach orgasm; and make it easier to climax… for both men and women alike.
It’s a fact, many women and men use sex toys. Research suggests that those who use them report MUCH higher levels of sexual satisfaction. And though more and more women are willing to admit to owning a sex toy, men’s attitudes are overwhelmingly positive – with 70 percent reporting that they don’t find them intimidating.
To start the ‘sex toy’ conversation with your partner, consider these strategies:
- Talk openly about your interests and desires. If you’re comfortable talking about sex, it will help to put your partner at ease. However, avoid talking about hot topics right before or right after sex when your hormones and emotions are running high.
- Be positive. Offer lots of reassurance and appreciation for your already hot sex life, so that your interest in sex toys isn’t perceived as a complaint. We are all sensitive about our sex lives and it’s important to let your partner know just how great s/he is.
- Connect the toys to something your partner is already doing. For example, he likely already knows how to touch your hot spots, so build on his skills: “Wow! It felt so good when you touched me there. It’s so sensitive. I’d love to try it with some lube and maybe even vibrations.”
- A digital ice-breaker. If starting to talk about sex toys face-to-face makes you feel embarrassed, or you don’t want your partner to feel like you’ve put them on the spot, consider emailing them a link to a blog or article about vibrators online, and asking “What are your thoughts on this?”
If your partner is intimidated by the thought of a toy, “replacing them” begin with toys that are less threatening, (eg. a small one that doesn’t look exactly like a penis may be a good introductory toy for a male.) You may also want to choose a toy that you can use TOGETHER.
At The Love Shop we have many items on the market designed specifically for use during intercourse, such as:
Stay tuned for our other awesome upcoming blogs featuring the latest trends and advice for sex, toys, relationships, and more. And don’t forget to shop www.loveshop.ca
, we’ve got something to fulfill every
Return to Blogs